How does abuse affect children?
Witnessing Domestic Abuse is child abuse.
In children, the effect of abuse may present itself in various feelings and behaviours:
sadness/lonely/withdrawn - so many different feelings going on inside your head; you feel alone
angry/fighting/bullying/tantrums - may feel it's ok to do what they are seeing at home
scared - fear of the perpetrator/being told they'll be removed from mum
ashamed/confused/feel to blame - feeling like they've made it happen
nightmares/lack of concentration - lack of sleep, bad dreams due to the violence causing tiredness at school
feeling protective towards mum/having to become a parent to a sibling
stomach aches - the constant treading on eggshells/knotted feeling in your stomach
difficulty sleeping
bed wetting
lowered sense of self worth
self harm or use drugs or alcohol
moving schools
moving to refuge
keeping secrets about the abuse to family, friends and teachers/adults
attention seeking
Women’s Aid have a specific website available for children and young people: https://loverespect.co.uk/ which can help with advice, stories and information around what a healthy relationship is.
Our designated support workers can be contacted via email info@coventryhaven.co.uk for information around support and awareness raising in your school, college, university or group.
Wish Project
As part of our new contract offer with effect from 1st July 2019, we are able to offer specific projects for children and young people via a social care referral. A leaflet can be downloaded here.
Have any of these things happened in your family?
Bad arguments or fights
Things in your house have been broken
Your mum/dad/carer have been: kicked, pushed, hit, slapped, sworn at, called nasty names, threatened or things have been thrown
You or your brothers and sisters have felt scared or been hurt
Not letting someone leave the house
Controlling behaviour, like telling someone where they can or can’t go and what they can wear
Threatening another family member or pet
Controlling finances by withholding money or stopped someone going to work
How does it make you feel?
Angry
Sad
Frightened/scared
Worried
Alone
Confused
Can’t get to sleep at night
Get tummy aches, ear aches, headaches, feeling sick or mouth ulcers
Worried about mum/dad/carer
Eating disorders
The Wish Project provides:
Advice and support including advocacy work
Group work for children and young people
Group work for children and parents
Individual support plans
One to one counselling
Family counselling
Links to other support services
If you would like to talk to someone about this, please telephone Safe to Talk 0800 111 4998. See here for more information about the WISH Programme.
Alternatively telephone the Wish team at Relate Coventry and Warwickshire on 024 7622 5863 or email info@relatecoventry.org
Agency referrals can be sent to referrals@coventryhaven.cjsm.net