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Signs or ‘Red Flags’ of an Abusive / Unhealthy Relationship

A relationship may start off healthy and happy, but it can soon develop into an abusive and volatile one. Know the warning signs.

How many can you ‘tick’….?

  •        You are seeing your friends and family less often

  • You make excuses for their behaviour, or defend them to others

  •        Sometimes you feel scared of how your partner will react in certain situations

  •        You are treading on eggshells around your partner

  •        You feel bad about yourself because your partner is criticising you; they blame you for their behaviour

  •        You don't express your opinions because he/she makes you feel like they are invalid; they question your credibility and undermine your confidence (gaslighting)

  • You feel belittled and you’re accused of being “too sensitive” (gaslighting)

  • They question your memory; “are you sure about that/ you’re forgetting what happened/ I don’t know what you’re talking about” (gaslighting)

  •        You don’t have an equal say in decisions

  •        You are constantly contacted on your mobile phone or social media when you are not together

  •        You are made to feel bad or guilty because of your partner's jealousy

  •        You are made to feel uncomfortable or scared when you are arguing with your partner

  •        You are ridiculed or called names

  •        Feel humiliated or embarrassed

  • They turn up if you are out without them

  •        If you are out without him/her, you receive constant calls/messages

  •        Refusing to communicate / given the ‘silent treatment’

  •        Flirting with others

  •        Extreme moodiness and mood swings

  •        Threatening ‘if you don’t …….., I will ……..’

  •        Threatening to commit suicide if you leave

  •        Withdrawal of affection

  •        Using money to control you

  • Taking photos of you that you don’t feel comfortable about

  • Threatening to show others or share on social media, photos or videos of you

  • Persuading you to withdraw your medication

  • Cruelty to pets / animals; withdrawing medical attention

  • You are constantly apologising to them

Please call, email or Drop-In to talk to us if you are feeling uncomfortable about your relationship, or someone else’s.

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Email: info@coventryhaven.co.uk

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